New Year, Same You
I don’t know about you, but the years seem to be going by faster and faster, and I am just unwilling for that to continue. I believe part of it is that our lives continue to speed up, we push ourselves to accomplish more, and we spend an astronomical amount of time and energy trying to change our body and self to be more acceptable.
So cheers to the same you in a new year! It’s time to throw out the idea that you need to change this year. For months leading up to New Year’s Day it’s common for people to lose all mindfulness around food and develop what I call a “pre-diet” mentality.
“I’ll eat whatever I want now because in the new year I am going to [insert any unrealistic goal].”
Traditional resolutions don’t last and are forgotten by the end of January because they were set for the wrong reason.
I hope that this new year can be different for you. I hope that your resolutions are the kind that don’t set you up to feel worse about yourself. I hope they are realistic and attainable and have more depth than wishing you had a different body. May your goals include mental health, not just physical health. I hope that you are able to see that you are enough now without a New Year’s resolution.
I hope that in this new year you infuse more variety and joy into your life and less of doing things just because you think you “should.”
The new year is not for punishing yourself for what you ate over the Holidays. Those resolutions are militant and fill your precious brain space with a dialogue of self-criticism. This new year is not for swearing that you will be at the gym every morning at 5am because you hate your body, but instead reflecting on all the ways you can honor your body. Realistic and attainable goals don’t include a weight goal because micromanaging our body isn’t sustainable and it is a goal you will eventually fail to attain.
Alternatively, what if your resolution was to work on respecting your body as it is now and to banish weight and diet talk around others.
Respecting your body is realistic. Eating and moving intuitively and imperfectly is attainable. One of the most important steps you can take towards respecting your body is to stop dieting. Set boundaries around conversations that you don’t value, such as body shaming and diet talk. Take time to go through your social media accounts and unfollow anyone who does not make you feel better about yourself. Practice plenty of self-compassion and neutralize the language in which you talk about your body.
I invite you to consider something different for your New Year’s plans. Make this year different by leaving behind the ‘black and white’ resolutions, and instead focused on the nuance and opportunity intentions hold.